Literally Just 315 Lower-Carb Recipes To Bookmark For Later

Delicious breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snack options, from all over the internet, that you’ll definitely want to try.

Before you start, here’s a quick reminder of what a carbohydrate is.

Before you start, here's a quick reminder of what a carbohydrate is.

Carbs are one of the three macronutrients — the other two being protein and fat — and they're our body’s main source of energy. There are also two types: complex carbs and simple carbs. The difference is that complex carbs (sweet potatoes, lentils, beans, etc.) will keep you full for much longer than simple carbs (fruit, juice, and candy) because simple carbs are easily digested and turned into energy at a faster pace than complex ones.

We've shared lots of great lower-carb recipes over the years, so we decided to gather a bunch of our most delicious roundups here in one place for you — you can either read them now or bookmark them for later.

All right, enjoy!

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For some options that are great for when you’re starting out on your lower-carb journey:

For some options that are great for when you're starting out on your lower-carb journey:

Get the full list at 103 Things To Cook If You're Trying To Eat Fewer Carbs.

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And then some recipes for when you’ve started getting the hang of it:

And then some recipes for when you've started getting the hang of it:

Get the full list at 24 Crazy Delicious Recipes That Are Super Low-Carb.

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For when you’re craving your favorite comfort foods:

For when you're craving your favorite comfort foods:

Get the full list at 27 Low-Carb Versions Of Your Favorite Comfort Foods.

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For when you need delicious recipes with no meat:

For when you need delicious recipes with no meat:

Get the full list at 21 Filling Low-Carb Recipes With No Meat.

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For dinners options that also pack tons of flavor:

For dinners options that also pack tons of flavor:

Get the full list at 16 Low-Carb Dinners That Aren't Boring.

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For simple lunch recipes that you’ll definitely be excited to crack into at noon:

For simple lunch recipes that you'll definitely be excited to crack into at noon:

Get the full list at 23 Low-Carb Lunches That Will Actually Fill You Up.

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For some genius recipe hacks that’ll make eating less carbs a lot easier:

For some genius recipe hacks that'll make eating less carbs a lot easier:

Get the full list at 7 Easy Ways To Eat Fewer Carbs This Week.

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For tasty snack ideas that will keep you from getting hangry throughout the day:

For tasty snack ideas that will keep you from getting hangry throughout the day:

Get the full list at 23 Low-Carb Snacks To Eat When You're Trying To Be Healthy.

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For awesome dinners you can whip up in 30 minutes or less:

For awesome dinners you can whip up in 30 minutes or less:

Get the full list at 17 Lower-Carb Meals For Busy Weeknights That Actually Look Delicious.

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For easy-to-make breakfasts that’ll keep you going through the morning:

For easy-to-make breakfasts that'll keep you going through the morning:

Get the full list at 31 Low-Carb Breakfasts That Will Actually Fill You Up.

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And last but not least, for dinner recipes that are all under 500 calories:

And last but not least, for dinner recipes that are all under 500 calories:

Get the full list at 23 Low-Carb Dinners Under 500 Calories That Actually Look Good AF.

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What’s An Amazing Reason To Work Out That Has Nothing To Do With Weight Loss?

Like having the strength to complete one pull-up. JUST ONE.

When it comes to fitness, weight loss isn’t everything. Tbh, it’s really just one reason some people might exercise. There are literally tons of other reasons to work out, too.

When it comes to fitness, weight loss isn't everything. Tbh, it's really just one reason some people might exercise. There are literally tons of other reasons to work out, too.

And with the new year quickly approaching, you might be thinking about what your fitness goals are for 2018.

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(Not that there's anything wrong with having the goal to change your body, it's just not what we're exploring in this particular post.)

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Maybe you’ve always wanted to run a marathon, and finally decided that this year is going to be THE YEAR.

Maybe you've always wanted to run a marathon, and finally decided that this year is going to be THE YEAR.

Or maybe it's another kind of event that you've wanted to do, like a mud run or triathlon, and you're getting ready to start training.

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Or maybe you’re a traveler who’s tired AF of always struggling to carry your bag upstairs, and you’re not going to take it anymore!

Or maybe you're a traveler who's tired AF of always struggling to carry your bag upstairs, and you're not going to take it anymore!

So you're ready to start lifting weights and building strength.

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Perhaps you’re just trying to be more active AND you’ve wanted to ride your bike more. So now you’re going to do both.

Perhaps you're just trying to be more active AND you've wanted to ride your bike more. So now you're going to do both.

It's a win-win. Get it!

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Maybe you want to learn something new, like ballet or pole dancing.

Maybe you want to learn something new, like ballet or pole dancing.

And who knows, you might discover you're really passionate about it.

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Or maybe your goal is to finally, FINALLY accomplish a single pull-up.

Or maybe your goal is to finally, FINALLY accomplish a single pull-up.

Or perhaps even a set of 10…eventually?

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Leave a sentence or two in the box below and feel free to get as detailed as you can. Tell us about what your goal is, why you decided this was going to be the year you got it done, and what you hope to get out of it — along with anything else that you think needs to be said.

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Here’s to all the weird interests 2017 tricked us into picking up.

This year has been a lot, and sometimes you need to lean on escapism and distraction to take care of yourself.

This year has been a lot, and sometimes you need to lean on escapism and distraction to take care of yourself.

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So we want to know: What surprising or weird ~thing~ did you get into just to make 2017 a little easier?

So we want to know: What surprising or weird ~thing~ did you get into just to make 2017 a little easier?

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Maybe you got into a fandom you never expected to like just because it was the right brand of mindless and distracting.

Maybe you got into a fandom you never expected to like just because it was the right brand of mindless and distracting.

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Maybe you mastered a new skill due to all the hours you were ignoring the news.

Maybe you mastered a new skill due to all the hours you were ignoring the news.

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23 Dating Mistakes People Are Making According To Therapists

I mean, is it EVER acceptable to leave someone on Read?

Dating can be a special type of shit show, especially today with texting and every type of dating app imaginable available to you.

Dating can be a special type of shit show, especially today with texting and every type of dating app imaginable available to you.

So we spoke with the experts, Terri Orbuch, PhD in Social Psychology, creator of the online video course How To Find Love In 7 Days, Rachel Sussman, LCSW, licensed psychotherapist and author of The Breakup Bible, and Irina Firstein, LCSW, licensed relationship therapist based in NYC, to get to the bottom of what mistakes you may be making and how to fix them so that you can better navigate the bizarre, and sometimes incredibly infuriating, world of dating.

We’ve rounded up the most common dating mistakes, according to experts, and how to avoid (and correct!) them. See if any of them sound familiar!

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Social media/Google-stalking your date ahead of time.

Social media/Google-stalking your date ahead of time.

Dating today, with the pre-first-date research you can do on the internet and with social media, can be really hard, Sussman tells BuzzFeed Health. “You’re getting all this information about someone before even meeting them and some of it is accurate and some of it isn’t.”

Look, we know you’re going to look people up ahead of time — and that’s perfectly reasonable because you don’t want to be catfished, or end up going out to dinner with some jerk who dumped your best friend a year before. But Sussman recommends refraining from doing the really deep research — like what their hobbies were in middle school — so that you can go into a date without any preconceived notions (that may or may not be true) about who the person is or what they're really like.

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Assuming that after a few dates, they’re not seeing anyone besides you.

Assuming that after a few dates, they’re not seeing anyone besides you.

If you’re in the early stages of dating someone, you should always assume that the person you’re dating is still seeing other people as well, Firstein says.

But if you’ve gone on three or four dates, and you’re pretty sure you both like each other, just be honest about your feelings. (Yes, it can be intimidating. But you can do it!) Firstein recommends saying something like, “Look, I really like you and I want to know what you’re looking for.” And if the other person responds saying they like you, too, then you can reply with something like, “I’d like to keep getting to know you, but exclusively, if you want that too” (if that’s what you want).

However, keep in mind, if you've been on what feels like a bunch of dates with someone, and they're still seeing other people, Firstein says that could mean that they aren't ready for something serious with you. Again, you won’t really know until you talk about it.

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Ghosting someone as a way of ending things.

Ghosting someone as a way of ending things.

Don’t ghost someone just because you don't want to hurt their feelings, Orbuch says.

If someone you’re no longer interested in reaches out to you, she recommends responding by saying something like, “It was lovely to meet you, but I’m sorry. I don’t think I felt that connection that I’m looking for and I don’t see a reason to go forward. I wish you lots of luck in the future.”

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Going on about exes really early on.

Going on about exes really early on.

Look, just don't do it. Don't bring up if your ex cheated on you, if you're having legal woes or custody battles, or if you're still trying to get a box of stuff back from your ex’s apartment.

Orbuch says that when people talk about their ex at length, especially early in a dating situation, it could mean that they're not over them yet, which means that moving forward to a new partner could be tricky.

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Obsessing over whether someone texts you back and how long it takes them to do so.

Obsessing over whether someone texts you back and how long it takes them to do so.

“Keep yourself busy, enjoy your life, and don’t get hung up on whether or not someone texts you back or responds exactly when you want them to,” Sussman says. “If you’re counting the minutes that it took them to respond, you're only going to make yourself upset and potentially misread into someone's actions.”

That being said, if you’re dating someone, and they’re obviously not consistent with keeping in touch with you, Sussman thinks that’s a warning sign, and that you'll have to ask yourself whether you really want to go out with that person again.

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And taking lack of follow-up after just a couple dates too personally.

And taking lack of follow-up after just a couple dates too personally.

“It’s a good idea to develop a bit of a tough skin, so that you don't take rejection or lack of follow-up, from a person you’ve only met once or twice, too personally,” Firstein says.

Okay, let’s be honest. We’ve all been obsessed with why a person decided to cancel or didn't call back. But there are SO many potential reasons for those things, and someone not wanting to take a relationship further doesn’t necessarily mean something terrible about you. On to the next!

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Spilling your deepest, darkest secrets on date one.

Spilling your deepest, darkest secrets on date one.

The notion is that you want to get everything out on the table early, and then if they like you, you'll know if they like you, for you, right away. But “too much information” means different things to different people and it’s tough gauge where people are with sharing. So, keep in mind that sharing a ton up front, if you’re doing it with someone who’s like you, can mean great connection and more intimacy, but if they’re not on the same page, it could feel like too much too soon, or it can be a sign of a mismatch.

She recommends revealing things about yourself gradually over time. Think about it as a book, and you're reading someone one chapter per date. You deserve to share your life and past with someone who's ready to listen and connect with you.

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Revealing major insecurities through self-deprecating humor during early dates.

Revealing major insecurities through self-deprecating humor during early dates.

Some people are really into self-deprecating humor (myself included), and that’s totally okay.

“It’s important to be able to laugh at yourself,” Orbuch says. “It can show that you’re down-to-earth and comfortable with yourself. But sometimes, self-deprecation can indicate a deep lack of self-esteem and confidence, which can make people uncomfortable and end up being a big turnoff.”

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Thinking there has to be ~intimacy~on the first few dates in order for them to be considered a success.

Thinking there has to be ~intimacy~on the first few dates in order for them to be considered a success.

“I don’t think that kissing or hooking up on the first few dates is the only way to know if a person is truly interested you or not,” Orbuch says. “If you do, that’s great. But if you don’t, that’s great too. Someone’s body language is definitely more indicative of their emotions and feelings.”

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Looking down on online dating.

Looking down on online dating.

“I hear so many people say 'I want to meet someone organically,' or 'there’s only creeps online, so it’s not going to work out for me,'” Firstein says. “But most people these days ARE on online dating apps, and thousands of people meet online every day and eventually get married.”

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Or only meeting people online and not being open to meeting people elsewhere.

Or only meeting people online and not being open to meeting people elsewhere.

But Sussman says it's a mistake to only date online and be closed off to meeting someone elsewhere.

“I believe you have to push yourself to go out and be willing to meet someone in person too,” she explains. “Don't let online dating stop you from being social, going out with friends, and being open to who your loved ones think could be good matches. You never know when/where you could meet someone you really like.”

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Going into dates with a checklist of things a person needs to meet, in order to make you happy.

Going into dates with a checklist of things a person needs to meet, in order to make you happy.

It’s okay to have criteria that you’re looking for, like someone who's kind, and empathetic. But deciding whether to see someone based on their height, college they went to, car they drive, how much they weigh, and what type of fashion style they have, could be restricting your potential matches, so much, that you're never even giving potentially awesome people, who don't check every single box, a chance, Firstein says.

“Checklist dating is only going to hold you back from getting to know someone and making a deeper connection with them,” she explains. “Try to go into every date with an open mind, and pay attention to the person's values, like family, religion or spirituality, sense of humor, trustworthiness, etc.”

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Getting pessimistic when a date doesn’t go well.

Getting pessimistic when a date doesn’t go well.

“Sometimes when people have a couple of bad dates they’ll make comments like, 'dating in New York City sucks', or 'dating sucks and I’m never going to meet anyone and be single forever,'” Sussman says. “It really blows the bad dates out of proportion and creates a jaded attitude.”

Of course we all get frustrated when a date (or string of dates), that you took time and effort to coordinate, doesn’t end well — and that’s a totally normal and healthy way to react. But try not to let yourself spiral, focusing all your time and energy on losing hope and being convinced you’ll be single forever.

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Or, immediately thinking you’re going to marry the person, if things do go well.

Or, immediately thinking you’re going to marry the person, if things do go well.

“If a date goes well, some people will assume that the person is perfect and they’re going to marry them,” Sussman says. “They get so excited about the prospect of that person, that if they don’t hear from them again, they're completely devastated over someone they've only hung out with a few times.”

Her advice is to, just like searching for a job, go into dates with an open mind — thinking that you'll probably never see this person again, but if you do, then that's great. Because even if a date goes well, there's still a chance you may never hear from them again, she says.

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Ignoring and making excuses for red flags.

Ignoring and making excuses for red flags.

“It’s okay to bring things up that concern you, like a date showing up a little late, or a date ordering a dish for you,” Sussman says. “But blatant red flags, like if your date is getting smashed on mixed drinks or consistently talking about his/her ex all the time, mean you should probably run.”

For example, sometimes it can be meaningful when someone takes a little while to respond, because it shows that they’re putting a lot of care and effort into their response. But if someone consistently isn't making communication a priority, that's a big warning sign that they aren't interested, Firstein explains. Don't make excuses for your date, like they're busy, or may not have seen your messages. It's probably time to move on.

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Only communicating through texts or DMs.

Only communicating through texts or DMs.

Everyone today communicates through messaging which, Orbuch says, might make it tough to get to know someone. People make assumptions (which may or may not be accurate) about their dates because of how they read into a message. Things are easily misconstrued through texts, since it’s not easy to know the tone of what someone is saying, she explains.

Orbuch suggests trying not to pass judgement on someone based on an assumption made in part because of a DM or text they’ve sent. She also recommends making sure you communicate through a variety of ways such as phone chats, texts, social media, and talking IRL.

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Getting drunk during a date.

Getting drunk during a date.

“Alcohol is a part of dating but you have to watch yourself,” Sussman says. “You have to keep your wits about you when deciding if this is someone that you’d want to spend more time with or not, and you can't manage that if you're drunk.”

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Not keeping first dates casual, fun, and in a neutral, public spot.

Not keeping first dates casual, fun, and in a neutral, public spot.

Orbuch says the first few dates should be at a neutral, public spot like a coffee shop or a wine bar. She thinks it's best if the date is casual, not too expensive, and is short and sweet, probably lasting no longer than two hours.

She also recommends that you stay away from movies or loud concerts on the first three dates because they won't give you the chance to talk and get to know each other better, which is what the first few dates are for.

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And not putting any thought or creativity into second and third dates.

And not putting any thought or creativity into second and third dates.

“Sometimes a second date can be used to a get to know the person again, and could be a little shorter, like the first,” Orbuch says. “But if you know you like the person, this is where creativity should come in.”

She says that if you're interested, you want to set the second and third dates apart from all the other second and third dates the person has had. Maybe that means going to a cool restaurant, a book signing, a fun cooking class, etc. Orbuch recommends remembering something your date has previously talked about, and making it happen.

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Being quick to judge someone you’re unsure about, and not giving someone at least two to three dates.

Being quick to judge someone you’re unsure about, and not giving someone at least two to three dates.

Think about it. How do you feel after a long day at work? Sussman says you should always take that into account during the first few dates.

“I’ve heard so many stories about someone showing up to a first date off their ~A-game~ because they had a long day at work or they got very little sleep the night before,” Sussman says. “Then someone gives them a second date and it’s so much better. I know two married couples who have told me this story.”

However, if you’ve given someone two to three dates, and you just really don’t see it going anywhere, then you should just be honest and say that you're sorry, but you don't feel a deep enough connection, she says.

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Spending way more time talking than you do listening.

Spending way more time talking than you do listening.

Remember, to genuinely pay attention to what your date has to say, Orbuch instructs. “Most people love to be asked about themselves,” she says. “People make the mistake of thinking that they need to talk the entire time in order to sell themselves. When really, dates will appreciate you more if you show interest in who they are and what they enjoy.”

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Playing the waiting game and not being honest about how you feel.

Playing the waiting game and not being honest about how you feel.

You should always tell someone if you had a good time; people appreciate honesty and confidence, Orbuch says.

She also says that gender should never determine who should text or follow up first, and that if you have a good time you should be upfront and just say it. If you're too nervous to mention it at the end of a date, then wait until you get home, or the next morning, to send a nice text saying you enjoyed your time and ask to meet again. You don't want to miss out on amazing opportunities because you're trying to play it cool.

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Expecting to meet someone you hit it off with right away.

Expecting to meet someone you hit it off with right away.

“It's a HUGE mistake to expect to meet someone you're in love with as soon as you start dating,” Firstein says. “It takes time to sift through a lot of people and experiences before you learn how to date and find a relationship that works for you.”

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23 Relationship Tips That You Definitely Need To Hear

Snooping through your partner’s social media is not the way to figure out if you can trust them or not, guys.

Navigating relationships can be tough, and sometimes (okay, most of the time) hindsight is 20/20.

Navigating relationships can be tough, and sometimes (okay, most of the time) hindsight is 20/20.

So we asked the BuzzFeed Community what things they learned about being in a relationship in 2017 that they wish they'd known sooner.

Here's all the awesome things they had to say!

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Trust your gut, but don’t let past relationships impact your current one.

Trust your gut, but don't let past relationships impact your current one.

“Believe your partner when they say they love you for the first time. Just because things haven't gone like this before, doesn't mean it isn't real now.”

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Just because someone seems ~perfect~, doesn’t mean they’re perfect for you.

Just because someone seems ~perfect~, doesn't mean they're perfect for you.

“Even though a person may seem perfect on paper, and check everything off of your 'list', it still doesn’t mean you two are soulmates.”

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And searching for a “fairytale relationship” just isn’t realistic.

And searching for a "fairytale relationship" just isn't realistic.

“Perfection isn't real or realistic — and if you feel like you have to be perfect with someone, or have to change yourself to get to that, it's probably not meant to be.”

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Don’t invade your partner’s personal privacy in order to find out if you can trust them or not.

Don't invade your partner's personal privacy in order to find out if you can trust them or not.

“Building trust, takes trust.”

—Lynne Carpenter, Facebook

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But don’t ignore the red flags.

But don't ignore the red flags.

“I ignored so many red flags and hunches during my two most significant relationships, and both of them ended up erupting into volatile, borderline abusive situations. I wish I had just trusted myself and heeded the warnings. Always listen to your intuition.”

—Camille Michelle Gray, Facebook

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A healthy, loving relationship isn’t supposed to hurt you over and over again.

A healthy, loving relationship isn't supposed to hurt you over and over again.

“Being with someone shouldn't be a constant struggle to please them; it should feel like coming home. I had to learn this the hard way, but the person I am with now was worth all of it. I feel more myself when I am with him, than when I'm with anyone else.”

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You can get into a relationship with people who have different interests and opinions from you.

You can get into a relationship with people who have different interests and opinions from you.

“Look, pineapple on pizza is an opinion. Whether refugees should be allowed basic care is a moral issue and value, not an opinion. You can be in a happy relationship with someone who has different opinions than you. However, it may be tough with someone who has differing morals and values.”

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And actions speak louder than words.

And actions speak louder than words.

“Sweet nonsense is superficial and really means nothing if there are no actions to back them up. Nice people aren’t actually ~nice people~ when they don’t treat you right.”

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There will always be people who have negative things to say about your partner and your relationship.

There will always be people who have negative things to say about your partner and your relationship.

“I️ wish I️ knew that not everyone wishes you the best and there will always be people who have something pessimistic to say about your relationship. While you should always trust your instincts, relationships are hard as it is, and you don’t need other people telling you what to do or how to feel.”

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But, if everyone in your life doesn’t like your S.O., it could be a major sign.

But, if everyone in your life doesn't like your S.O., it could be a major sign.

“If a majority of people in your life don't like your significant other, maybe you should at least hear them out and listen to their reasoning.”

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And look, maybe don’t get back together with your awful ex.

And look, maybe don't get back together with your awful ex.

“Be wary of getting back together with your ex and don't fall into their 'I've changed' trap. Exes are exes for a reason.”

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“Taking your ex back is like trying to put poop back up your butt.”

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Don’t compare your relationship to the stuff you read in books or watch on TV.

Don't compare your relationship to the stuff you read in books or watch on TV.

“Quit comparing your relationship to your friend's relationships, or the shit you see online or on TV. It's just not realistic, and it's unhealthy to put those expectations on yourself and your partner. Relationships are not a competition and setting the bar that ridiculously high will only lead to resentment and disappointment.”

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And know that you may be on a different timeline than other couples, and that’s okay.

And know that you may be on a different timeline than other couples, and that's okay.

“I wish I'd known that my relationship isn't wrong for fitting a different timeline than those around me! I moved in with my partner after a year and a half and was constantly worried that other people would judge us for the pace of our relationship. However, I couldn't be happier and that's all that matters.”

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Understand that caring for yourself is NOT selfish.

Understand that caring for yourself is NOT selfish.

“Caring about yourself is necessary! Same with needing attention! You work so hard, honey. You deserve all the extra loving.”

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Remember, your body is beautiful and is not an object made to please someone else.

Remember, your body is beautiful and is not an object made to please someone else.

“Never continue dating a someone who has negative things to say about your body or your appearance. They're not worth it.”

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Don’t make someone your priority, if it’s obvious they won’t do the same for you.

Don't make someone your priority, if it's obvious they won't do the same for you.

“Don't make someone your priority when you're only an option to them. In college, I was IN LOVE with this guy who lived on the other side of the city. I'm talking about a 45 minute drive, ONE WAY, without traffic in order to see him. He was always up for me coming to see him, but any time I asked him to make the drive to see me, he said it was too far and that I should just come up to see him. Took me way too long to figure out this guy was an absolute dick and not worth it.”

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And know that you can’t change how someone feels about you, and that you should be with someone who appreciates you for who you are.

And know that you can't change how someone feels about you, and that you should be with someone who appreciates you for who you are.

“You can't change someone's mind about whether they like you or not, and trying to do so is only a waste of your time. You're not something to be settled for. Whoever is with you should feel lucky to have the opportunity to be with you.”

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It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to stand up for yourself.

It's okay to say no. It's okay to stand up for yourself.

“Know that its not normal for your partner to specifically do things to you that you told him make you feel uncomfortable. In fact, it's the opposite. Emotional and sexual abuse is never okay. Never.”

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And never stay with someone who does things to teach you a lesson or punish you.

And never stay with someone who does things to teach you a lesson or punish you.

“If your significant other does things to 'punish' you, get out of that relationship ASAP. That behavior should not be tolerated and it may not get better.”

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Always make quality time with your partner a priority.

Always make quality time with your partner a priority.

“Quality time is crucial, and sometimes that means doing things together besides Netflix and chilling. It makes the relationship deeper, more exciting, and helps you get to know the fantastic person sitting next to you.”

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And if you’re both really busy, it’s okay to plan some awesome date nights at home.

And if you're both really busy, it's okay to plan some awesome date nights at home.

“Never take a quiet night at home for granted — a good board game or a catch-up session on the couch with a blanket and some wine. We get so busy sometimes that staying in can be so much more fun and relaxing than planning a night out.”

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People hurt in different ways and can love more than once.

People hurt in different ways and can love more than once.

“If your ex moved on before you that doesn’t mean they never loved you or you aren't worthy of being loved. People show their pain in different ways. You will find someone new too. And it's okay if it takes a little bit longer than other people. Stay positive and remember you are beautiful and worth it.”

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And last but not least, it’s okay to want to be in a relationship, but try not to spend time so much time stressing out about it.

And last but not least, it's okay to want to be in a relationship, but try not to spend time so much time stressing out about it.

“There's no shame in admitting you want a relationship, but try not to obsess over it! Enjoy being single and take more time with yourself, your family, and your friends. I wish I told myself to not be so desperate for a relationship. It really wasn't healthy.”

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Keep in mind that in a relationship where physical, emotional, or substance abuse is an issue, seeking professional help is essential. If you've experienced any of these, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 800-799-7233, or the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMHSA), 1-877-726-4727, for help.

13 Things You Should Know About HIV, But Probably Don’t

HIV/AIDS is no longer what it used to be — but what exactly has changed?

There are approximately 36.7 million people living with HIV worldwide, including 1.1 million in the US. Here’s what you need to know.

There are approximately 36.7 million people living with HIV worldwide, including 1.1 million in the US. Here's what you need to know.

You’ve probably heard about HIV or learned about it in sex ed class, but how much do you know about the current epidemic? Yes, there have been tremendous successes in treatment, research, and health outcomes for people since HIV/AIDS was first discovered in the 1980s. However, HIV/AIDS is still a real public health problem in the US and all over the world today.

So we spoke to four different HIV/AIDS experts to find out what they REALLY want people to know: Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID); Rowena Johnston, PhD, vice president and director of research at amfAR; Dr. Stacey Rizza, chair of HIV clinic at the Mayo Clinic; and Dr. Diane Havlir, chief of the HIV, Infectious Diseases and Global Medicine Division at University of California San Francisco.

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HIV/AIDS is still an epidemic — both in the US and globally.

HIV/AIDS is still an epidemic — both in the US and globally.

HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) attacks the body's immune system by destroying infection-fighting white blood cells. Over time, HIV can destroy so many of these CD4+ cells, or T cells, that the body can't fight off infections and disease. The final stage of HIV is acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS). HIV is spread through certain bodily fluids, often through sex with an infected person, but also by sharing needles and from a pregnant mother to her child.

One of the most common misconceptions experts have to fight against is the idea that HIV/AIDS was only a problem in the 1980s and 1990s, and it's no longer a big deal. That is NOT true. “People think that because of the rather breathtaking advances in science and implementation in HIV treatment, HIV is a thing of the past — but the truth is, it's still a major problem and we haven't solved it yet,” Fauci told BuzzFeed Health.

It’s important for people to understand this so they know why research and new treatments are necessary. “The HIV epidemic remains a huge active problem in our country and around the world, yet it has fallen off the radar screen. Why is this important? Silence makes people think HIV is no longer a problem and makes health systems and funders think support is less important,” Havlir told BuzzFeed Health in an email.

“Now is not the time to move on and stop allocating funding and research to HIV — we still have serious challenges to overcome,” Fauci says.

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There are still around 40,000 new infections each year in the US, and diagnoses are increasing for new groups.

There are still around 40,000 new infections each year in the US, and diagnoses are increasing for new groups.

The number of new HIV infections in the US has decreased slightly in recent years, about 10% from 2010 (41,900) to 2014 (37,600), according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). However, experts warn that the progress has not been consistent and diagnoses are increasing among certain groups.

“As a whole, men who have sex with men (MSM) — particularly those who are African-American — still make up the majority of new infections, but we are now seeing a sharp increase in diagnoses among MSM who are Hispanic/Latino and also increases among African-American women and populations in the Southeast,” Rizza told BuzzFeed Health. What has decreased is the number of new infections from intravenous drug use, the experts say, largely thanks to clean needle sharing programs.

“The issue is that we still have this many new infections each year despite millions of dollars of public health spending and research and education,” Rizza says. The experts point to stigmatization, barriers to care, and a lack of education and awareness, especially among young people. “I think a lot of younger people just don't believe it’ll happen to them, so they don't always practice safe sex or get tested,” Rizza says.

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About 15% of people living with HIV in the US don’t know they’re infected.

About 15% of people living with HIV in the US don't know they're infected.

According to the CDC, an estimated 1.1 million people in the United States were living with HIV at the end of 2014. Out of those people, 15%, or 1 in 7, did not know they were infected — and 30% of new HIV infections are transmitted by people who are living with undiagnosed HIV.

There are a number of reasons why people go undetected, the experts say. “First, people just don't know they are at risk or don't think it'll happen to them, so they don't get screened. And if they do think they might have HIV, they may be too afraid to find out their status,” Rizza says. Fear of discrimination and stigma hinder testing for many people. But the number of undiagnosed HIV cases also reflects a problem among providers. “Many clinicians are bad at doing universal screenings — or they have a misconception about who should be tested and how often, so they misjudge which patients need routine screenings,” Rizza says.

When it comes to STIs, not knowing your status can both jeopardize your health and the health of all your partners. “Don't wait — there is so much benefit from knowing your status — you can protect yourself from AIDS and you can protect other people from HIV,” Johnston tells BuzzFeed Health.

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Men who have sex with men are most affected by HIV in the US, but globally, more women are infected with HIV.

Men who have sex with men are most affected by HIV in the US, but globally, more women are infected with HIV.

According to the United Nations Joint Programme on HIV/AIDS, women represent over half (52%) of all adults living with HIV worldwide, and HIV is the leading cause of death among women of reproductive age. “Men who have sex with men are at the highest risk in the US, but globally, it is transmitted heterosexually,” Fauci says.

Like men, women can transmit HIV to their sex and needle-sharing partners. But women can also transmit the virus to their child while pregnant, giving birth, or breastfeeding. Fortunately, early detection and treatment can prevent transmission from mother to child and improve health outcomes. So the CDC recommends that all pregnant women get tested for HIV as early as possible.

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The right treatment can allow HIV-positive people to live close to a normal lifespan.

The right treatment can allow HIV-positive people to live close to a normal lifespan.

“The HIV epidemic is one of the worst plagues in history — but the response has been one of the most successful in history. AIDS was once a uniformly fatal disease and now is a treatable chronic disease, often requiring only 1 pill a day,” Havlir says.

“Antiretroviral therapy (ART) works by reducing the amount of virus (or viral load) in your body, so people with HIV can live healthier lives and have a lower risk of transmitting the virus to others,” says Johnston. It usually consists of a combination of three medications, taken daily, but for some, it's only one pill a day. People with HIV are still at higher risk for things like stroke and heart disease, Johnston says, but treatment will keep the virus under control.

“These lifesaving drugs, if taken appropriately and properly, can allow someone with HIV to lead a little shy of a normal lifespan — whereas before, in the 1980s, the median for survival was about a year,” Fauci tells BuzzFeed Health. These drugs can also allow a woman who is HIV-positive to carry and deliver a child without infecting them with HIV. That said, not everyone who has HIV actually starts ART and sticks to a treatment regimen, Rizza says, because of barriers to care or noncompliance.

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Anyone can get infected with HIV — regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender, socioeconomic status, or age.

Anyone can get infected with HIV — regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender, socioeconomic status, or age.

Although some groups are disproportionately affected by HIV, this does not mean that the virus can’t infect people in any other group. “People need to understand that HIV is a common infection and it affects every socioeconomic group, profession, ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc — and there shouldn't be any judgment associated with people who have it,” Rizza says.

The fact that many believe that only people of a certain demographic are at risk is another reason why cases go undetected and untreated, Rizza says. It's always important to practice safe sex and use condoms to protect yourself against HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.

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Not everyone with HIV will go on to develop AIDS.

Not everyone with HIV will go on to develop AIDS.

AIDS is the final, and most severe, phase of HIV infection. People with AIDS develop an increasing number of opportunistic infections, or certain illnesses and cancers that happen in people with weak immune systems. According to the CDC, once someone has AIDS they typically survive about three years.

“If you detect HIV early enough and you go on a therapy that works and stay on it, you will most likely not get AIDS,” Fauci. Early treatment is key, because the time window between when someone is infected with HIV and when it turns into AIDS can vary greatly. “For some people it only takes two years and for others it can take 20 years — it really depends on the person,” Fauci says. The earlier you get treated for HIV, the better chance you have at living a healthy life. If left untreated, HIV will turn into AIDS, and ultimately lead to death.

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Treatment can reduce the amount of HIV in the blood to the point where it isn’t detected by standard testing — which is called “being undetectable.”

Treatment can reduce the amount of HIV in the blood to the point where it isn't detected by standard testing — which is called "being undetectable."

ART reduces the viral load, or the amount of the virus in the blood and bodily fluids. Through proper treatment, the viral load is reduced to the point where it can’t be detected by standard testing measures, Fauci says. But once the virus is undetectable, you still have to continue with treatment and get tested regularly to make sure your viral load stays low. And it definitely doesn't mean you are cured. “Even when you are undetectable, there is still a latent 'reservoir' of the virus in their body, hiding in your immune cells and tissues, that we don't know how to get rid of,” says Rizza.

However, it isn't always easy to become and stay undetectable. “Only about 25% of people with HIV in the US have reached this stage — we need to do a better job of making sure people get on the right drug therapy and take it consistently,” Johnston says. It's especially difficult for people living in poverty, who face additional stigmas and barriers to care.

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If someone has an undetectable viral load, they cannot pass HIV during sex.

If someone has an undetectable viral load, they cannot pass HIV during sex.

Recently, the CDC announced that a person living with HIV who has reached undetectable status cannot transmit the virus to their sexual partners. “If you are on proper antiretroviral therapy and you are truly undetectable, you will not transmit the virus to your sexual partner because — the risk is so low it's immeasurable,” Fauci says. The fact has inspired a major prevention campaign, U=U, which stands for “undetectable = untransmittable.”

This is why treatment is so important, because it protects both the person with HIV and their partners. However, HIV-positive individuals who are undetectable should still use condoms to protect against other sexually transmitted infections and/or pregnancy, and their partners should get routinely screened for HIV.

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So if you treat HIV, it not only saves your life but it also protects others.

So if you treat HIV, it not only saves your life but it also protects others.

“Treatment is prevention — meaning, if someone has HIV and they’re on therapy until they are undetectable then the risk of transmitting the virus sexually or through their blood is almost zero,” Rizza says. So if you get on therapy, you not only save your own life but you protect all the other people you have sexual relationships with, which is another incentive to getting tested and treated.

“Think about it this way: If every single person who had HIV got diagnosed and treated properly, to the point where everyone is undetectable, then the generation would be completely HIV-free,” Rizza says.

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The medication PrEP reduces the risk of getting HIV from sex by more than 90%.

The medication PrEP reduces the risk of getting HIV from sex by more than 90%.

Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is when people who are at high risk for HIV take HIV medicines daily to lower their chances of getting infected or to stop HIV from spreading in the body. “There's a misconception that PrEP isn't effective — but that's not true. It's not effective if you don't take it correctly. But if you do take it properly and as prescribed, you will dramatically reduce your risk of HIV infection, often by about 95%,” Fauci says.

So if you are at risk, you should talk to your doctor about whether PrEP is right for you. “The data on PrEP for men is stronger but PrEP can be used by women as well” Fauci says. The risk of getting HIV from sex is even lower if you combine PrEP with condoms. “Of course, it isn't 100% effective and some people who have taken it correctly have acquired HIV infections, but that doesn't mean it isn't a very effective option to protect yourself,” Johnston says.

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Currently, there is no cure or vaccine for HIV/AIDS — but the research is promising.

Currently, there is no cure or vaccine for HIV/AIDS — but the research is promising.

There no cure that we can routinely give to people, Johnston says, but there has been one man, “The Berlin Patient,” who was cured of HIV. “He had both HIV and leukemia and underwent a bone marrow transplant for the cancer which ended up clearing HIV from his body because his donor had a certain genetic mutation,” Johnston says. Obviously, this was a unique situation and it can't be replicated, Johnston says, “but it was very promising because it showed the world that yes, it is possible to cure this virus.”

Right now, some of the cure research is focusing on how to eliminate the latent HIV “reservoir,” or the cells that are still infected with HIV but are not actively producing new viruses (these cells still exist in undetectable people). “If we can find a way to eliminate the reservoir, possibly by reactivating the virus so it comes out of ‘hiding’ and we can kill it, then we could possibly cure HIV — but the reservoir is hard to touch, so we still have a lot of work to do,” Rizza says.

There is no vaccine to prevent or treat HIV/AIDS either, but researchers have been working on developing one since 1987 and they aren't stopping anytime soon. “I am optimistic — there is such an explosion of information and understanding of HIV and we have such dedicated communities that I really think we're going to make incredible strides in the next five, ten years,” Johnston says.

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Everyone who’s at risk should get routine HIV tests.

Everyone who's at risk should get routine HIV tests.

Everyone should get tested for HIV as a part of their routine health care, the experts say, but some groups will need to get more frequent screenings than others. The current guidelines from the US Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) recommends that doctors routinely screen teens and adults aged 15 to 65 years, pregnant woman, and people of any age who are at higher risk.

“If you are in a category that puts you at high risk for HIV or you are practicing risky behaviors, you might need to get tested every 3 or 6 months to a year,” Fauci says. Risk factors for HIV include having sex with someone whose sexual history you don't know anything about, being a sex worker, having unprotected anal or vaginal sex with multiple partners, being diagnosed with another STI, and more. Always talk to your doctor about your HIV risk and screening needs.

“You may think you don't need to know your status or get tested because it couldn't happen to you but if you've ever had sex with anyone then yes, it could happen,” Johnston. HIV testing is covered by insurance as a preventive health service under the Affordable Care Act, and if you don't have insurance there are many sites that offer free testing.

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How Do You Cook Healthier Even Though You’re Lazy AF?

Calling all lazy chefs who’ve found ways to cook a little healthier this year.

Look, healthy cooking is hard enough, and it’s even worse when you can barely get yourself to cook as it is.

Look, healthy cooking is hard enough, and it's even worse when you can barely get yourself to cook as it is.

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So we want to know: What little ways did you start cooking healthier this year, despite being pretty freaking lazy?

So we want to know: What little ways did you start cooking healthier this year, despite being pretty freaking lazy?

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Maybe you started making the perfect make-ahead breakfast so you don’t have to rely on whatever’s convenient on your way to work.

Maybe you started making the perfect make-ahead breakfast so you don't have to rely on whatever's convenient on your way to work.

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Or you started finding recipes for desserts that get their sweetness from fruit rather than from added refined sugar.

Or you started finding recipes for desserts that get their sweetness from fruit rather than from added refined sugar.

(Added sugar just means sugar that's added to food during manufacturing or processing. So, like, not the naturally occurring sugar in fruit and dairy.)

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Maybe you experimented with steaming, grilling, or baking your food instead of pan-frying it.

Maybe you experimented with steaming, grilling, or baking your food instead of pan-frying it.

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Or you’ve figured out how to use seasonings and whip up homemade sauces instead of relying on store-bought dressings and sauces.

Or you've figured out how to use seasonings and whip up homemade sauces instead of relying on store-bought dressings and sauces.

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Perhaps you’ve identified a couple one-skillet recipes that include protein, fat, and yummy complex carbs.

Perhaps you've identified a couple one-skillet recipes that include protein, fat, and yummy complex carbs.

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Or you’ve invested in a slow cooker so that you can just dump all the ingredients in and go on with your day.

Or you've invested in a slow cooker so that you can just dump all the ingredients in and go on with your day.

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We want to hear all about the hacks, tips, and products that have helped you out.

What Helped You Eat A Lower-Added-Sugar Diet?

Because it’s not easy stuff to cut down on.

Sugar is definitely DELICIOUS.

Sugar is definitely DELICIOUS.

No doubt about that, obviously.

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So trying to limit your intake of added sugar can be really rough when you’re first starting out.

So trying to limit your intake of added sugar can be really rough when you're first starting out.

(Added sugar just means sugar that's added to food during manufacturing or processing. So, like, not the naturally occurring sugar in fruit and dairy.)

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That’s why we want to know your tips and tricks for making eating less added sugar a whole lot easier.

That's why we want to know your tips and tricks for making eating less added sugar a whole lot easier.

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Maybe you experimented with some delicious lower-sugar recipes and started making most of your own meals, desserts, and snacks.

Maybe you experimented with some delicious lower-sugar recipes and started making most of your own meals, desserts, and snacks.

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Maybe you learned more about how eating specific amounts of sugar affects your body.

Maybe you learned more about how eating specific amounts of sugar affects your body.

And that gave you enough context to make some small changes here and there.

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Or maybe you started scheduling most of your sugar-heavy snacks before or after your workouts.

Or maybe you started scheduling most of your sugar-heavy snacks before or after your workouts.

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Perhaps you started by looking at everything you eat in a day and determined which sugar-packed things you could live without.

Perhaps you started by looking at everything you eat in a day and determined which sugar-packed things you could live without.

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Or you committed to reading nutrition labels and understanding just how much sugar is in your favorite foods.

Or you committed to reading nutrition labels and understanding just how much sugar is in your favorite foods.

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And you found that if you ate more protein- and fat-heavy meals, you missed sugar less.

And you found that if you ate more protein- and fat-heavy meals, you missed sugar less.

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So we want to know: What things really made the difference in helping you maintain a lower-added-sugar diet?

So we want to know: What things really made the difference in helping you maintain a lower-added-sugar diet?

We're looking for things that made eating less added sugar a little bit easier on you, whether it's something you learned through trial and error or something you tried because of advice from a registered dietitian, doctor, family member, etc.

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