Stressed Out? This Free Chatbot Helped Me Feel Better in Just 15 Minutes

Are you feeling stressed, anxious or depressed?

You’re definitely not alone. And as a mostly broke writer trudging through the holiday season, I’m right there with you.

The key word there is “broke,” which is one reason why more than half of Americans who need some sort of mental health treatment go it alone instead of springing for therapy.

But what if I told you there was a free “therapist” you could talk to right now? And what if I told you I personally felt better after just one 15-minute session?

Oh yeah, and the therapist fits right in your pocket.

Meet Woebot, a personal chatbot designed to monitor your mood and teach you about what makes you tick using a technique called cognitive behavioral therapy.

It’s available through Facebook Messenger, and according to a Stanford University study of young adults, Woebot reduced anxiety and depression in participants in just two weeks..

It’s definitely no substitute for a true human therapist, but with its current price tag of free (at least, they say, until they decide to push for a more sustainable business model), it’s certainly worth a try.

So I tried it.

Here’s How to Get Started With Woebot

Your first session with Woebot will take about 15 minutes or less, depending on whether you have a pile of issues to deal with, like I do. Start by finding its page on Facebook, and shooting it a message.

A simple “HELP ME PLEASE I’M FREAKING OUT” will suffice.

Woebot started off our first session by putting me at ease.

“The beauty of talking to me is that we can learn together in the context of everyday life,” it said.

“No childhood stuff?” I asked.

“No you have to go to a proper therapist for that 😃,” Woebot retorted.

It’s simple enough. After an initial questionnaire about anxiety and depression levels, I just check in with Woebot daily. The software charts my energy levels and feelings to help find trends in how life events affect my emotional well being.

“Sometimes I see patterns that can be hard for humans to see,” Woebot said. “It also helps that I have a perfect memory 😇.”

How I Felt After My First Session With Woebot

I definitely felt at ease and even giggled a few times during my first interaction with Woebot. I mean, after my initial assessment, it sent me a gif of a hedgehog getting a belly rub.

Woebot explained the general causes of some of the thoughts in my head giving me anxiety, forced me to confront them, and then rewrite — er text —  the thoughts objectively. Then it would congratulate me on my progress and send an emoji of some kind (Hats off! 🤠).

I chose to work through three thoughts at first, but you can choose how many issues to explore.

As weird as it was texting my deepest thoughts to a dang robot, after the session I felt remarkably more relaxed and focused on the day ahead. It was like getting a $60 therapy session for free (but don’t take my word for that.)

“Although I am merely a guide, I’m very proud of you and you can be proud of yourself,” Woebot said.

Thanks, Woebot.

Does This Mean More Mental Health Apps Are Coming?

Woebot is particularly exciting when you consider the fact that serious mental illness is most prevalent among the poorest Americans, according to the Peterson-Kaiser Health System Tracker.

But there are still plenty of obstacles that could slow the spread of similar apps.

For one, the Health Insurance and Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) doesn’t cover these chatbots and therefore can’t ensure patient privacy, according to an article in the Washington Post. And while Woebot did have some human warmth, it’s just not good at chitchat.

“These things can work well on a superficial level with superficial conversations,” John Torous, co-director of a digital psychiatry program at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, told the Post. “[But] are they effective tools, do they change outcomes and do they deliver more efficient care? It’s still early.”

In the meantime, there are plenty of other free or low-cost ways to supplement your chosen chatbot. Finding a training clinic at a university or attending support groups are a couple of options.

Exercise keeps me on top of my mental health game. So find yourself a cheap gym that’s right for you.

You could always try caring about work less, although that one is a bit of a stretch for all my fellow anxietyheads out there.

For now, there’s always Woebot —I’ll be checking in with it first thing tomorrow.

Alex Mahadevan is a data journalist at The Penny Hoarder. He is totally not freaking out right now. He swears.

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What Hobbies Kept You From Losing Your Mind In 2017?

Here’s to all the weird interests 2017 tricked us into picking up.

This year has been a lot, and sometimes you need to lean on escapism and distraction to take care of yourself.

This year has been a lot, and sometimes you need to lean on escapism and distraction to take care of yourself.

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So we want to know: What surprising or weird ~thing~ did you get into just to make 2017 a little easier?

So we want to know: What surprising or weird ~thing~ did you get into just to make 2017 a little easier?

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Maybe you got into a fandom you never expected to like just because it was the right brand of mindless and distracting.

Maybe you got into a fandom you never expected to like just because it was the right brand of mindless and distracting.

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Maybe you mastered a new skill due to all the hours you were ignoring the news.

Maybe you mastered a new skill due to all the hours you were ignoring the news.

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Your response could appear in an upcoming BuzzFeed Health list.

“A Christmas Prince” Is So Bad It’s Good And Here Are The Tweets To Prove It

Quite possibly the best worst Christmas movie ever made.

Hello. I’m here today to talk to you about my new favourite movie, A Christmas Prince.

Hello. I'm here today to talk to you about my new favourite movie, A Christmas Prince.

If you've watched it, you understand how glorious it is. And if you haven't, well, you're missing out.

See, it's about a ~quirky~ woman who is worse at being a journalist than Rory Gilmore, and a guy who is literally every bland, handsome, white, quasi-tortured prince with a playboy reputation and a secret heart of gold you've ever watched. There's a Christmas tree in every scene, in case you forget it's a CHRISTMAS prince, i.e. the best kind of prince, obviously. I imagine he smells of cinnamon and wrapping paper IRL. And if you love romance clichés, guess what: THIS MOVIE HAS ALL OF THEM. Every single one. There's even that scene from Beauty and the Beast with the wolves, except there's just one (1) wolf and instead of roaring in its face, the prince…well, I won't spoil it for you. JUST WATCH IT.

Basically, A Christmas Prince is simultaneously the best and worst thing Netflix has ever produced. I was so happy watching it and, let me tell you, in 2017 that is no easy feat. But it's the kind of movie you need to watch with your snarkiest friends and/or Twitter followers because taking the piss out of it is 98% of the fun. Here are some of my fave tweets about it so far…

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In conclusion: This movie is terrible and you should definitely watch it now.

In conclusion: This movie is terrible and you should definitely watch it now.

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21 People Who Clapped Back With Such Amazing Force In 2017

It’s starting to feel a lot like shade-mas.

When Wendy’s dragged the competition:

When Wendy's dragged the competition:

Via Twitter: @Wendys

And served this delicious, highly seasoned roast:

And served this delicious, highly seasoned roast:

Via Twitter: @Wendys

When Cher, in true Cher fashion, didn’t hold back:

When Cher, in true Cher fashion, didn't hold back:

Via Twitter: @cher

And when Diplo one-upped Katy’s burn:

And when Diplo one-upped Katy's burn:

Via Twitter: @diplo

When this model shut down someone trying to bring her down:

When this model shut down someone trying to bring her down:

Via Twitter: @GirlThatsSlim

Via Twitter: @symone_lu

And when this girl made her thoughts crystal clear:

And when this girl made her thoughts crystal clear:

Via Twitter: @imleyton

Via Twitter: @ThickLeeyonce

When Chance The Rapper was having absolutely none of what Joey was selling:

When Chance The Rapper was having absolutely none of what Joey was selling:

Via Twitter: @DanaSchwartzzz

When James Blunt was here for no slander against his name:

When James Blunt was here for no slander against his name:

Via Twitter: @JamesBlunt

And when Dave East wasn’t even taking his fan account’s shit:

And when Dave East wasn't even taking his fan account's shit:

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When CNN administered this truth bomb to Trump:

When CNN administered this truth bomb to Trump:

Via Twitter: @CNNPR

When Netflix was having none of Hulu’s shit:

When Netflix was having none of Hulu's shit:

Via Twitter: @netflix

And when Rihanna wasn’t here for any indirect Fenty shade:

And when Rihanna wasn't here for any indirect Fenty shade:

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When Ethan exposed Adrian with such swiftness:

When Ethan exposed Adrian with such swiftness:

Via Twitter: @Ethanissavage

When Sharon Osbourne wasn’t afraid to call out the Jenner girls:

When Sharon Osbourne wasn't afraid to call out the Jenner girls:

Via Twitter: @MrsSOsbourne

When men failed to understand the purpose of a prenup:

When men failed to understand the purpose of a prenup:

Via Twitter: @leauxmichelle

When Jeffree Star tried to deflect the heat off himself and it backfired:

When Jeffree Star tried to deflect the heat off himself and it backfired:

Via Twitter: @jordansdiamonds

And when not even Pennywise wanted to be grouped in with Logan Paul:

And when not even Pennywise wanted to be grouped in with Logan Paul:

Via Twitter: @LitClapbacks

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These Online Tutoring Companies Pay $20+/Hour (and They’re Hiring Now!)

Editor’s Note: The job listing for MathElf has expired but all of the other tutoring companies are still hiring!

Tutoring has always been a fantastic way for students and other academically-inclined folk to earn a little money on the side.

And now that the internet is here, you don’t even need to leave your house to do it. But, it can be tough to sift through all the online tutoring jobs out there.

Which ones are scammy? And which ones pay peanuts?

We did some of the sifting for you (aren’t we nice?), and found some online tutoring jobs that pay $20 per hour — and are hiring right now.

1. VIPKID

Always dreamt of moving abroad to teach English as a second language, but have commitments stateside? Thanks to the internet, you can still share your knowledge with students in China.

VIPKID is hiring part-time ESL teachers to work at least 7.5 hours per week, mostly on weekday mornings and weekend evenings. You’ll need a bachelor’s degree, plus experience working with kids ages 5-12.

The base pay is $14-$18 per hour, but because of bonuses, the company states the “typical salary” ranges from $16-$24 per hour.

2. Chegg

Chegg is a platform where students can find tutors. After you log in with Facebook and create a profile, you can get matched with students in any subject — and earn $20 per hour.

You’ll be required to prove you’re currently or were previously enrolled in a university by submitting copies of your diploma, student ID card or unofficial transcripts.

Unlike the other companies on this list, Chegg’s Glassdoor reviews are mixed, so do your research before applying.

3. Revolution Prep

Looking for a full-time tutoring job? Then Revolution Prep is looking for you.

It’s hiring professional tutors to “deliver exceptional one-on-one instruction to students grades 6-12 in a variety of academic subjects and college admissions tests.”

You must have at least a bachelor’s degree, plus the ability to work evenings and weekends. In return, you’ll earn $20 per hour — plus bonuses, health insurance, a 401(k) and paid time off.

Susan Shain, contributor for The Penny Hoarder, is always seeking adventure on a budget. Visit her blog at susanshain.com, or say hi on Twitter @susan_shain.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

27 Jokes That Might Actually Make You Want To Go To Therapy

My therapist: Hi. Me: *STARTS CRYING*

Twitter: @jesuspinkman

Twitter: @AliceAvizandum

Twitter: @brokeangeI

Twitter: @jpbrammer

Twitter: @KeetPotato

Twitter: @david8hughes

Twitter: @sadvil

Twitter: @LurkAtHomeMom

Twitter: @lasagnabby

Twitter: @DougExeter

Twitter: @brokeangeI

Twitter: @imskytrash

Twitter: @brokeangeI

Twitter: @ughsabri

Twitter: @ugsadkid

Twitter: @brokeangeI

Twitter: @TechnicallyRon

Twitter: @INDIEWASHERE

Twitter: @ArfMeasures

Twitter: @jonnysun

Twitter: @INDIEWASHERE

Twitter: @HUNTYCHAN

Twitter: @sageboggs

Twitter: @bobvulfov

Twitter: @leviwrfel

Twitter: @sadgirlkms

Self-Employed and Need Health Insurance? Here’s How You Can Get It

One of the biggest challenges facing freelancers today (aside from landing paying clients) is finding affordable healthcare coverage.

In fact, according to a 2016 study by Upwork, 20% of the 55 million freelancers in the U.S. workforce are without health insurance.

It can be tempting to go without it, but that’s a disaster waiting to happen. Try these six resources to find affordable health care when you’re self-employed.

1. Health Insurance Marketplace

Depending on your income and household size, you may qualify for Medicaid, the Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP), premium tax credits or other savings options through the Affordable Care Act.

Create an account and complete an application to find out what benefits you’re eligible to receive.

2. Health Insurance Companies

Health insurance companies like Cigna and UnitedHealthcare offer private health insurance plans for self-employed people.

The companies offer a wide range of price points and coverage options to choose from. It can be difficult to figure out the right one to choose, but it’s worth it to spend time researching your choices.

3. Health Insurance Brokers

Health insurance brokers like Stride and Gravie assemble a variety of plans from several health insurance companies based on the type of coverage you’re looking for so you can quickly compare them and find what you need.

Reputable health insurance brokers make money from the insurance companies they represent and will never charge you a fee for their services.

4. Health Care Sharing Ministries

These faith-based organizations distribute health care costs among their members to help ease the burden of medical bills on individual members.

“These organizations generally require members to make a promise to adhere to certain biblical values and to participate regularly in worship or prayers,” explains HealthInsurance.org.

5. Gig Service Companies

It’s rare, but a few gig service companies offer health benefits to freelancers who use their platforms.

Care.com offers health insurance to its professional caregivers, and Instacart recently reclassified some of its contract workers as part-time employees to make them eligible for health benefits.

6. Freelancer and Industry-Specific Advocacy Groups

Freelancers Union connects freelancers with affordable health insurance plans.

Industry-specific organizations like the National Writer’s Union or the Professional Photographers of America are also great places to find leads on discounted health insurance.

No matter which option you choose, keep this in mind: Whenever you sign a legal document — including a health insurance policy – make sure to read the fine print. A thorough understanding of your coverage could save you big bucks.

Lisa McGreevy is a staff writer at The Penny Hoarder. She loves helping freelancers live their best lives so look her up on Twitter (@lisah) if you’ve got a tip to share.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

23 Dating Mistakes People Are Making According To Therapists

I mean, is it EVER acceptable to leave someone on Read?

Dating can be a special type of shit show, especially today with texting and every type of dating app imaginable available to you.

Dating can be a special type of shit show, especially today with texting and every type of dating app imaginable available to you.

So we spoke with the experts, Terri Orbuch, PhD in Social Psychology, creator of the online video course How To Find Love In 7 Days, Rachel Sussman, LCSW, licensed psychotherapist and author of The Breakup Bible, and Irina Firstein, LCSW, licensed relationship therapist based in NYC, to get to the bottom of what mistakes you may be making and how to fix them so that you can better navigate the bizarre, and sometimes incredibly infuriating, world of dating.

We’ve rounded up the most common dating mistakes, according to experts, and how to avoid (and correct!) them. See if any of them sound familiar!

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Social media/Google-stalking your date ahead of time.

Social media/Google-stalking your date ahead of time.

Dating today, with the pre-first-date research you can do on the internet and with social media, can be really hard, Sussman tells BuzzFeed Health. “You’re getting all this information about someone before even meeting them and some of it is accurate and some of it isn’t.”

Look, we know you’re going to look people up ahead of time — and that’s perfectly reasonable because you don’t want to be catfished, or end up going out to dinner with some jerk who dumped your best friend a year before. But Sussman recommends refraining from doing the really deep research — like what their hobbies were in middle school — so that you can go into a date without any preconceived notions (that may or may not be true) about who the person is or what they're really like.

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Assuming that after a few dates, they’re not seeing anyone besides you.

Assuming that after a few dates, they’re not seeing anyone besides you.

If you’re in the early stages of dating someone, you should always assume that the person you’re dating is still seeing other people as well, Firstein says.

But if you’ve gone on three or four dates, and you’re pretty sure you both like each other, just be honest about your feelings. (Yes, it can be intimidating. But you can do it!) Firstein recommends saying something like, “Look, I really like you and I want to know what you’re looking for.” And if the other person responds saying they like you, too, then you can reply with something like, “I’d like to keep getting to know you, but exclusively, if you want that too” (if that’s what you want).

However, keep in mind, if you've been on what feels like a bunch of dates with someone, and they're still seeing other people, Firstein says that could mean that they aren't ready for something serious with you. Again, you won’t really know until you talk about it.

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Ghosting someone as a way of ending things.

Ghosting someone as a way of ending things.

Don’t ghost someone just because you don't want to hurt their feelings, Orbuch says.

If someone you’re no longer interested in reaches out to you, she recommends responding by saying something like, “It was lovely to meet you, but I’m sorry. I don’t think I felt that connection that I’m looking for and I don’t see a reason to go forward. I wish you lots of luck in the future.”

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Going on about exes really early on.

Going on about exes really early on.

Look, just don't do it. Don't bring up if your ex cheated on you, if you're having legal woes or custody battles, or if you're still trying to get a box of stuff back from your ex’s apartment.

Orbuch says that when people talk about their ex at length, especially early in a dating situation, it could mean that they're not over them yet, which means that moving forward to a new partner could be tricky.

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Obsessing over whether someone texts you back and how long it takes them to do so.

Obsessing over whether someone texts you back and how long it takes them to do so.

“Keep yourself busy, enjoy your life, and don’t get hung up on whether or not someone texts you back or responds exactly when you want them to,” Sussman says. “If you’re counting the minutes that it took them to respond, you're only going to make yourself upset and potentially misread into someone's actions.”

That being said, if you’re dating someone, and they’re obviously not consistent with keeping in touch with you, Sussman thinks that’s a warning sign, and that you'll have to ask yourself whether you really want to go out with that person again.

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And taking lack of follow-up after just a couple dates too personally.

And taking lack of follow-up after just a couple dates too personally.

“It’s a good idea to develop a bit of a tough skin, so that you don't take rejection or lack of follow-up, from a person you’ve only met once or twice, too personally,” Firstein says.

Okay, let’s be honest. We’ve all been obsessed with why a person decided to cancel or didn't call back. But there are SO many potential reasons for those things, and someone not wanting to take a relationship further doesn’t necessarily mean something terrible about you. On to the next!

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Spilling your deepest, darkest secrets on date one.

Spilling your deepest, darkest secrets on date one.

The notion is that you want to get everything out on the table early, and then if they like you, you'll know if they like you, for you, right away. But “too much information” means different things to different people and it’s tough gauge where people are with sharing. So, keep in mind that sharing a ton up front, if you’re doing it with someone who’s like you, can mean great connection and more intimacy, but if they’re not on the same page, it could feel like too much too soon, or it can be a sign of a mismatch.

She recommends revealing things about yourself gradually over time. Think about it as a book, and you're reading someone one chapter per date. You deserve to share your life and past with someone who's ready to listen and connect with you.

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Revealing major insecurities through self-deprecating humor during early dates.

Revealing major insecurities through self-deprecating humor during early dates.

Some people are really into self-deprecating humor (myself included), and that’s totally okay.

“It’s important to be able to laugh at yourself,” Orbuch says. “It can show that you’re down-to-earth and comfortable with yourself. But sometimes, self-deprecation can indicate a deep lack of self-esteem and confidence, which can make people uncomfortable and end up being a big turnoff.”

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Thinking there has to be ~intimacy~on the first few dates in order for them to be considered a success.

Thinking there has to be ~intimacy~on the first few dates in order for them to be considered a success.

“I don’t think that kissing or hooking up on the first few dates is the only way to know if a person is truly interested you or not,” Orbuch says. “If you do, that’s great. But if you don’t, that’s great too. Someone’s body language is definitely more indicative of their emotions and feelings.”

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Looking down on online dating.

Looking down on online dating.

“I hear so many people say 'I want to meet someone organically,' or 'there’s only creeps online, so it’s not going to work out for me,'” Firstein says. “But most people these days ARE on online dating apps, and thousands of people meet online every day and eventually get married.”

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Or only meeting people online and not being open to meeting people elsewhere.

Or only meeting people online and not being open to meeting people elsewhere.

But Sussman says it's a mistake to only date online and be closed off to meeting someone elsewhere.

“I believe you have to push yourself to go out and be willing to meet someone in person too,” she explains. “Don't let online dating stop you from being social, going out with friends, and being open to who your loved ones think could be good matches. You never know when/where you could meet someone you really like.”

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Going into dates with a checklist of things a person needs to meet, in order to make you happy.

Going into dates with a checklist of things a person needs to meet, in order to make you happy.

It’s okay to have criteria that you’re looking for, like someone who's kind, and empathetic. But deciding whether to see someone based on their height, college they went to, car they drive, how much they weigh, and what type of fashion style they have, could be restricting your potential matches, so much, that you're never even giving potentially awesome people, who don't check every single box, a chance, Firstein says.

“Checklist dating is only going to hold you back from getting to know someone and making a deeper connection with them,” she explains. “Try to go into every date with an open mind, and pay attention to the person's values, like family, religion or spirituality, sense of humor, trustworthiness, etc.”

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Getting pessimistic when a date doesn’t go well.

Getting pessimistic when a date doesn’t go well.

“Sometimes when people have a couple of bad dates they’ll make comments like, 'dating in New York City sucks', or 'dating sucks and I’m never going to meet anyone and be single forever,'” Sussman says. “It really blows the bad dates out of proportion and creates a jaded attitude.”

Of course we all get frustrated when a date (or string of dates), that you took time and effort to coordinate, doesn’t end well — and that’s a totally normal and healthy way to react. But try not to let yourself spiral, focusing all your time and energy on losing hope and being convinced you’ll be single forever.

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Or, immediately thinking you’re going to marry the person, if things do go well.

Or, immediately thinking you’re going to marry the person, if things do go well.

“If a date goes well, some people will assume that the person is perfect and they’re going to marry them,” Sussman says. “They get so excited about the prospect of that person, that if they don’t hear from them again, they're completely devastated over someone they've only hung out with a few times.”

Her advice is to, just like searching for a job, go into dates with an open mind — thinking that you'll probably never see this person again, but if you do, then that's great. Because even if a date goes well, there's still a chance you may never hear from them again, she says.

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Ignoring and making excuses for red flags.

Ignoring and making excuses for red flags.

“It’s okay to bring things up that concern you, like a date showing up a little late, or a date ordering a dish for you,” Sussman says. “But blatant red flags, like if your date is getting smashed on mixed drinks or consistently talking about his/her ex all the time, mean you should probably run.”

For example, sometimes it can be meaningful when someone takes a little while to respond, because it shows that they’re putting a lot of care and effort into their response. But if someone consistently isn't making communication a priority, that's a big warning sign that they aren't interested, Firstein explains. Don't make excuses for your date, like they're busy, or may not have seen your messages. It's probably time to move on.

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Only communicating through texts or DMs.

Only communicating through texts or DMs.

Everyone today communicates through messaging which, Orbuch says, might make it tough to get to know someone. People make assumptions (which may or may not be accurate) about their dates because of how they read into a message. Things are easily misconstrued through texts, since it’s not easy to know the tone of what someone is saying, she explains.

Orbuch suggests trying not to pass judgement on someone based on an assumption made in part because of a DM or text they’ve sent. She also recommends making sure you communicate through a variety of ways such as phone chats, texts, social media, and talking IRL.

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Getting drunk during a date.

Getting drunk during a date.

“Alcohol is a part of dating but you have to watch yourself,” Sussman says. “You have to keep your wits about you when deciding if this is someone that you’d want to spend more time with or not, and you can't manage that if you're drunk.”

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Not keeping first dates casual, fun, and in a neutral, public spot.

Not keeping first dates casual, fun, and in a neutral, public spot.

Orbuch says the first few dates should be at a neutral, public spot like a coffee shop or a wine bar. She thinks it's best if the date is casual, not too expensive, and is short and sweet, probably lasting no longer than two hours.

She also recommends that you stay away from movies or loud concerts on the first three dates because they won't give you the chance to talk and get to know each other better, which is what the first few dates are for.

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And not putting any thought or creativity into second and third dates.

And not putting any thought or creativity into second and third dates.

“Sometimes a second date can be used to a get to know the person again, and could be a little shorter, like the first,” Orbuch says. “But if you know you like the person, this is where creativity should come in.”

She says that if you're interested, you want to set the second and third dates apart from all the other second and third dates the person has had. Maybe that means going to a cool restaurant, a book signing, a fun cooking class, etc. Orbuch recommends remembering something your date has previously talked about, and making it happen.

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Being quick to judge someone you’re unsure about, and not giving someone at least two to three dates.

Being quick to judge someone you’re unsure about, and not giving someone at least two to three dates.

Think about it. How do you feel after a long day at work? Sussman says you should always take that into account during the first few dates.

“I’ve heard so many stories about someone showing up to a first date off their ~A-game~ because they had a long day at work or they got very little sleep the night before,” Sussman says. “Then someone gives them a second date and it’s so much better. I know two married couples who have told me this story.”

However, if you’ve given someone two to three dates, and you just really don’t see it going anywhere, then you should just be honest and say that you're sorry, but you don't feel a deep enough connection, she says.

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Spending way more time talking than you do listening.

Spending way more time talking than you do listening.

Remember, to genuinely pay attention to what your date has to say, Orbuch instructs. “Most people love to be asked about themselves,” she says. “People make the mistake of thinking that they need to talk the entire time in order to sell themselves. When really, dates will appreciate you more if you show interest in who they are and what they enjoy.”

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Playing the waiting game and not being honest about how you feel.

Playing the waiting game and not being honest about how you feel.

You should always tell someone if you had a good time; people appreciate honesty and confidence, Orbuch says.

She also says that gender should never determine who should text or follow up first, and that if you have a good time you should be upfront and just say it. If you're too nervous to mention it at the end of a date, then wait until you get home, or the next morning, to send a nice text saying you enjoyed your time and ask to meet again. You don't want to miss out on amazing opportunities because you're trying to play it cool.

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Expecting to meet someone you hit it off with right away.

Expecting to meet someone you hit it off with right away.

“It's a HUGE mistake to expect to meet someone you're in love with as soon as you start dating,” Firstein says. “It takes time to sift through a lot of people and experiences before you learn how to date and find a relationship that works for you.”

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YOU GOT THIS!

YOU GOT THIS!

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Not Sure How to Write a Resume? This Step-by-Step Guide Makes It Easy

Hiring practices may have changed a bit in the last few years, but one thing has stayed the same.

Resumes are a must during a job hunt.

Many new grads worry their resume isn’t any good because they don’t have much job experience to list. Some lack a resume altogether.

That’s too bad, because a quality resume is a very big deal for job seekers.

It’s your first introduction to prospective employers and can make or break your chances of getting a job.

Hiring a professional resume writer is an option, but it doesn’t come cheap. You could pay anywhere from $100 to $1,000.

Writing a resume isn’t too complex, but there are some important details to keep in mind. Use this blueprint to create a great resume that gets you noticed.

Choose Your Format

Choose Your Format of Your Resume and What Types of Resume Fits Your Job

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Free online resume templates that let you fill in the blanks are an option, but you get what you pay for — which is to say, not much.

Employer brand consultant Jörgen Sundberg says resume templates cast job candidates in a poor light.

“Basically, it’s the lazy way of doing it,” Sundberg says. “What type of signal do you think these copy and paste skills send to the hiring manager? I would think that this applicant, if hired, would always look for quick and dirty ways of solving problems. I might be cynical here but can you afford to risk that?”

Artists, graphic designers and other visually creative professionals may want to use their resume to highlight their creative talents. Otherwise, keep things simple.

Hiring managers are interested in your skills and experience, not fancy fonts or formatting. Use a standard font like Arial or Tahoma and keep the layout simple.

Create Your Content

Sections of a Resume

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Your resume should contain several important components.

Contact Information

Feature your name and contact information at the top of the page.

Use your full name, followed by your phone number and email address. If you have a LinkedIn profile or professional online portfolio, be sure to include that as well.

Objective

Write a short paragraph — two or three sentences at most — highlighting the type of work you’re looking for. Be sure to mention skills and talents that make you perfect for the job.

Work Experience

List your current job (if applicable) first, followed by all previous jobs in reverse chronological order.

Each job should include:

  • Name and address of the company where you worked
  • Your job title
  • Dates of employment
  • Your job responsibilities

If you have no work experience, don’t leave this section blank or eliminate it altogether.

Instead, use the section to highlight skills you’ve developed during college or while doing volunteer work.

“Don’t make the mistake of thinking that the skills you list on your resume need to be the direct result of a previous professional position. As long as you can successfully demonstrate those abilities, go ahead and list them! It really doesn’t matter where you learned them,” recommends The Everygirl’s Kat Boogaard.

Education

In this section, include any community colleges, universities, trade schools or technical colleges you’ve attended. Begin with your most recent school and work backwards.

For each school, be sure to provide:

  • The name, city and state of the school
  • The dates you attended
  • Any degrees or certifications you received

Note: If your degree is in progress, add the expected date of completion to let prospective employers know you’re still working on it.

Honors and Community Experience

This section captures extracurricular activities that don’t fit into the previous sections. For example:

  • Academic or work-related awards
  • Membership in clubs or organizations like Girl or Boy Scouts, 4-H or debate club
  • Volunteer community service
  • Greek Life leadership

Additional Skills

Here’s where to highlight skills and talents that set you apart from other job seekers, including:

  • Fluency in more than one language
  • Typing speed
  • Proficiency in specific computer software programs
  • Experience with public speaking

A Word About Keywords

Many companies ask job candidates to apply online and upload resumes to their website. Resumes are often electronically scanned for specific keywords to quickly weed out unqualified applicants.

“Your resume keywords should include specific job requirements, including your skills, competencies, relevant credentials, and previous positions and employers,” says career expert Alison Doyle. “Essentially, keywords should be words that, at a glance, will show the hiring manager that you are a good fit for the job.”

As you sprinkle keywords throughout your resume, be sure they don’t make the content sound stilted or awkward. Look for ways to work them in naturally; don’t force it.

Final Touches

Once you’ve created your resume, it’s not ready to hand to a hiring manager until you do these three things.

1. Proofread Your Work

It’s not enough to simply run your resume through a spellchecker because they don’t always catch every mistake.

Print a copy of your resume, then read through it slowly several times to make sure it’s error-free.

2. Show It to a Friend

Share your resume with someone you trust to get some honest feedback on how it looks. Have them read it to you out loud to take in the content in a new way.

3. Convert It to a PDF

Save Your Resume into a PDF Before Sending It Off in Job Applications

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Write your resume in whatever software application works best for you, but convert it to a PDF file before you send it to a hiring manager. If your word processing software doesn’t include a conversion feature, there are plenty of free online services to choose from.

PDF file formats are almost universally preferred during the hiring process and they protect your resume’s content from being accidentally altered once it leaves your hands.

Once your cover letter is ready for prime time, write up a cover letter (they’re more important than you think) and start sending it to job prospects.

Happy job hunting!

Lisa McGreevy is a staff writer at The Penny Hoarder. She loves to write anything, and she means anything, except resumes.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

Drake Got Busted Mixing Himself A Drink At A Game And It Will Make You Say “Same”

Hey, those stadium beers are EXPENSIVE.

Drake. To know him is to love him.

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Drake went to a Toronto Raptors game this week, and decided to sneak himself a little ~drink~ at his seat…

Drake went to a Toronto Raptors game this week, and decided to sneak himself a little ~drink~ at his seat...

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The moment he realizes…

The moment he realizes...

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THE FRANTIC SEARCH FOR A PLACE TO HIDE THE EVIDENCE.

THE FRANTIC SEARCH FOR A PLACE TO HIDE THE EVIDENCE.

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*record scratch*
Yup, that’s me. You’re probably wondering how I got here.

*record scratch*
Yup, that's me. You're probably wondering how I got here.

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MOST LIKELY: Drake snuck a little booze into the game, and was fixing himself a vodka soda with the Perrier.

MOST LIKELY: Drake snuck a little booze into the game, and was fixing himself a vodka soda with the Perrier.

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ALSO POSSIBLE: He wasn’t drinking alcohol, and was truly just pouring Perrier into a paper cup for innocent reasons.

ALSO POSSIBLE: He wasn't drinking alcohol, and was truly just pouring Perrier into a paper cup for innocent reasons.

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But I’m putting my money on the booze thing. Hey, those stadium beers are expensive. Who HASN’T snuck a lil flask in their sock, at some point or another?

But I'm putting my money on the booze thing. Hey, those stadium beers are expensive. Who HASN'T snuck a lil flask in their sock, at some point or another?

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